Nevertheless, non-apologies tend to ring conspicuously false, being variously couched in ifs, buts, hedges, deflection, qualification, self-absorption, euphemism, defensiveness, obfuscation, and the agentless passive voice (“Mistakes were made”). I’m just sorry I got called out is a common subtext. Oooh I just got this passive voice full-on for a friend. "I'm sorry for how deeply the way … Continue reading Sorry, Not Sorry
Tag: Friendship
Great Expectations
There was a famous study once regarding the depression, that has prompted a debate – are depressed people pessimists – or actually are they realists? (Depressive Realism) Is everyone else wearing rose-colored glasses to see the world and overestimating their own abilities and the good that will come their way? Do rose-colored glasses actually act … Continue reading Great Expectations
“Living My Best Life”
When I post a photo on social media, or send it along through email, I will often get the response: “Keep living your best life.” I find it incredibly confusing. Along with the photos, if anyone was paying attention to the text of anything I was sharing, I was talking about my search for a … Continue reading “Living My Best Life”
Showing Up
In my previous posts, I have touched on what it means for me for the people in my life to Show Up when I’m sick. From the Caring Letters approach to suicide prevention I refer to in Is “Suicide Survivors’” Grief a Lie?, to listing the simple things people do that actually help at the end … Continue reading Showing Up
What Sticks
As I child, I was told I held grudges. That my excellent memory and ability to recall details from the past could be a gift but was also a curse. I did not let go. I held onto things and unjustly used them against people in the future. It was a convenient way for anyone … Continue reading What Sticks
Inside My Madness 